I want to write something about people who for different reasons try to stay away from other people and feel ok only when they are alone. I believe it is a serious problem of today's society. There are many reasons for people to behave in this way. There are people who just can't stand the others. They get irritated by everything especially when they think their personal space is invaded. Other people are too shy to have social relations. They are practically afraid of the contact with other people. They don't know what to say or to do in such cases and therefore to avoid the stress of this situation they prefer to stay alone. Both categories are in practive incapable to cope with the changes that human and social contact brings, they feel comfortable in their more static way of life. But the question is why this people become antisocial and practically incapable of feeling the joy of contact?
The need to communicate with other people is something we have from birth. Babies love to be smiled at or hugged. Children like to have the attention of the other children and the adults and enjoy it. So what happened to these people? The basis in succesful communication is given in the primary cell of family. The success of a family gives the child the ability to perform communication and contact with others. Such a family works in terms of a continous try to understand each other, of conversation about the problems and needs of every member but also love that is shown. In such a family the child learns to express its opinion , to discuss his interests and problems and it learns also that it can love and be loved by people. A person which has received respect in its early years will have the ability to have its own personality, believe in it and express it too. Also an active family brings a dynamical way of life and the child learns to cope with change and get interest from it. The exact opposite can happen when in the family there is violence or verbal fighting ,indifference, lack of understanding, disrespect for the child. Then the child is very probable to start keeping distances from people and never grow the self-confidence to become social.
Exept family there is also the group of friends that in teen years plays a significant role in the social develpment of the human. When in the peer group the teen receives rejection he can restrain from contact and slowly become antisocial. We need friends to respect us and help us in our teen years in order to build a trust to ourselves and to society and become sociable.
But there is always the possibility of an adult from antisocial becoming sociable. This needs a lot of inner strength but most importantly friends and family with the mental and emotional strength to help. Unfortunately the people with these qualities are to few and the people with antisocial behavior to many. Does this state something about the success of our society? I believe yes. As a society we perform superficial contact and communication lacking the ability to go deeper to create an emotional communication too and explore the benefits of this deep mental-emotional contact. It is though reasonable in a society of mistrust and of lack of frankness. Yet a try is worth the benefits that can come from it.
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
about antisocial (not sociable) behavior
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antisocial,
family,
loneliness,
social development
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